My Mother-In-Law Is So Good To Me, It’s Unreal.

My Mother-In-Law (MIL) is so good to me, it’s unreal. She isn’t a MIL. She’s my Mum -In-Love!

I may not have gotten many things right in my lifetime, but I’m sure that I MUST have done something outstanding to be blessed with someone like her, and I will be telling you the ten reasons why I love her.

Now, hold up and wait a minute, everyone.

I’m not here to cast aspersions upon anyone who’s had or is having a horrendous family situation.

Neither am I here to commonise the truth of your experiences.

I’m entirely in terms with the fact that a nasty MIL situation is one many women may have no choice but to endure, and  it shatters my heart to see daughters-in-law be in such a horrible space.

The Age Long Mother-In-Law And Daughter In Law Feud

The Mother-In-Law and Daughter-In-Law (DIL) feud is an age-long thorn in the flesh that spurns across continents.

It’s so bad that some girls have vowed only to marry men who don’t have mums and have lost out on good men in the process.

I used to think that the MIL issue was peculiar to my part of the world until I saw the movie the monster in law.

In it, I saw the full extent of this misnomer play out across generations, a MIL hell-bent on making her DIL’s life miserable.

As the movie progressed, we’ll discover that she, too, was dealt a similar blow by her tyrannical MIL.

It showed that this phenomenon is a worldwide menace that wouldn’t go away unless we, as women, consciously challenge this unpalatable narrative.

The reason why I think this feud has continued to perpetuate itself is the lack of trust.

There Is A Lack Of Trust

There is this and some!

There are the protocols that have to be observed and the oddities to navigate, so much so that we don’t often know how to approach each other.

And some feel justified for not wanting to develop any form of relationship at all.

I may never be good enough for her son, some wives may suppose, so why try in the first place? They might ask.

This hostility, assumed or real, has caused untold emotional pain for both MILs and DILs, and on the receiving end is usually the bone of contention, the man.

Some mothers have lost their sons to their wives embrace without given the opportunity to prove themselves.

Their DILs have banged their doors on their faces before any form of interaction has taken place.

I’ll say not all MILs are unforgivably duplicitous. I’d also say to DILs to tread softly. There is a very delicate thread here.

Allow for time. Please get to know her and leave room for human shortcomings before your draw your conclusions.

After all, we all know how mothers can be like sometimes.

Your mum can be impossible too, but because your MIL isn’t your mum, her fair judgments of you and situations could be misconstrued as toxic.

That being said, if you’re uncertain about yours, here are a few pointers to tell you whether or not she’s toxic.

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15 Signs Of A Toxic Mother-In-Law

She does the following:

• Refuses to acknowledge you as her son’s wife.
• Believes you aren’t good enough for him.
• Prefers his ex to you and doesn’t hide it.
• Finds your parenting skills appalling.
• Critical of your home and decorating skills.
• Nitpicks at everything you do or say.
• Always speaks ill of you to her son and others.
• Accuses you unjustly.
• Undermines your authority in your home.
• She often takes sides against you.
• Causes tension between you and your husband whenever she visits your home.
• Might get verbally and/or physically abusive towards you.
• Takes away your peace whenever she comes around.
• May or may not invite you to family events.
• Let’s you know that she doesn’t like you!

Here Are The 10 Reasons Why I Love My Mother-In-Law

She Is So Sweet, It’s Unreal

She Is A Giver

She Is An Energy Ball

She Is A Full-On Fashionista

To Know Her Is To Love Her

To know Mamma Luf is to love her. She’s so beautiful outside and even lovelier on the inside.

You would never catch her being a wallflower.

She loves to serve and immerse herself in doing things for other people.

When my grandmother passed, she visited with her friends and brought them all to support my mom at the ceremonies.

She sees herself as one of us and will often ask when there is a family occasion, “what are WE doing” never separating herself.

She’s friends with all my uncles and would often call to check on them.

She Loves Peace

Mamma Luf loves peace. She doesn’t like strife and conflict. She pursues peace with an enthusiasm I can’t explain.

She wants everyone to live together in love all the time. Our video calls are frequent. More like four times a week.

Through our many video calls, she’s become e-friends with my friends and always remembers everyone the next time she calls.

She starts our conversations with “hello baby” and is always quick to tell my husband to “take care of her baby”, which is such a contrast from being the number one girl on my side, and I must say I love being babied.

She Loves Her Children And Me!

I admire the way she loves her children. She would do almost anything for them and prays for each one of her grand kids by name.

It’s no surprise they show such great care for her. They had an excellent teacher!

“When I developed cold feet before the wedding and did not want to go on, my mother-in-law called me first thing in the morning and promised to take care of me.”

She said she was coming to my house to hug me. And she was there.

She Made My Transition Into The Family Easy

I told her sometime last year that she makes adjusting to married life easy.

It was and still is, the truth. I do not do “new” very well.

She made the transition into her family amazingly easy and comfortable for me.

She Is A Godly Woman